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In the first part of Chapter 4, “Rule by Rape,” the authors open with a shocking statistic: “Women aged fifteen through forty-four are more likely to be maimed or die from male violence than from cancer, malaria, traffic accidents, and war combined” (61). Domestic violence often coincides with sexual assault, as was the case for Woinshet Zebene, a young Ethiopian girl from a rural village. She was kidnapped and raped by a man named Aberew, who hoped to marry her despite her not knowing who he was. After discussions with her father, Woinshet decided to report the rape as a crime; something which defied rural Ethiopian cultural norms. The elders in her village pressured Woinshet and her father to settle with Aberew, but they refused.
Aberew kidnapped Woinshet again and resumed beating and raping her and demanding that she marry him. Woinshet escaped again but was caught. Aberew took her to court, where he tried to pressure her into marriage. She still refused. Woinshet moved to the police station, hoping to stay alive, because her community was furious with her for breaking tradition and wouldn’t help when Aberew kidnapped her again. Woinshet brought her case before the courts, but the judges sided with Aberew. As a result, she permanently left her village and moved to Addis Ababa, where no one would recognize her. Woinshet’s story illustrates how men and women alike adhere to oppressive social traditions.
Kristof and WuDunn promote education as one way to change cultures, and they share the story of Punjabi woman Mukhtar Mai as one example in the chapter’s second half, “Mukhtar’s School.” Like Woinshet, Mukhtar reported her rape as a crime and demanded the men’s prosecution. Somewhat surprisingly, the police arrested the men, and the president of Pakistan, Pervez Musharraf, sent her compensation. Mukhtar used the money to invest in schools. She believed that the only way to overcome cultural attitudes that tolerated her rape was through education. Mukhtar constantly emphasized to the parents in her schools’ curriculum that girls needed to stay in school. She expanded her operations to include several additional schools, including those in “gangster-ridden areas” (75) and a women’s college. The authors hail Mukhtar as “an inspiration to us all” (79) because—despite being uneducated and from a rural village—she stood up to her country’s president and other government officials in the hopes of advancing women’s rights.
Kristof and WuDunn start the first part of Chapter 5, “The Shame of ‘Honor,’” by noting that “killing a girl because she doesn’t bleed on her wedding night is among the most cruel” (81) abuse. Many religions and cultures around the world worship the hymen, which is a small, thin piece of tissue at the opening of a woman’s vagina, as a symbol of chastity, sexual honor, and purity. Women are considered virgins as long as the hymen remains intact. The authors note the widespread reverence for virginity, including in the Bible, ancient China, and the present-day Middle East. In the Middle East, “sexual honor is today a major reason for violence against women” (81).
Honor killings are one example. The UN Population Fund estimates that 5,000 honor killings occur each year, most in the Middle East. The authors think this estimate is too low because many honor killings are disguised as deaths by suicide or accidents. They suggest, instead, that at least 6,000 honor killings occur each year.
The problem is even worse when considering honor rapes, which are “rapes intended to disgrace the victim or demean her clan” (83). Rape has been used as a tool of war in many countries, including Darfur, the Congo, Sierra Leone, Rwanda, and Liberia. The impacts of rape on women are traumatic and horrific. For example, rape can cause a fistula, which is a hole between a woman’s vagina and bladder or rectum, leading to the leaking of urine or feces. This happened to a 17-year-old Congolese girl named Dina. Dina was able to receive medical care at a hospital called HEAL Africa, which is located in the biggest city in the Congo and is the focus on the second half of this chapter, “‘Study Abroad’—in the Congo.’”
American woman Harper McConnell volunteers at this hospital. Although a major hospital, it faces immense challenges operating in a war-torn country. She has started two major projects: a school for children awaiting medical treatment at the hospital and a skills-training program for women awaiting surgery so that when women leave the hospital, they receive the raw materials they need to generate income for themselves and their family. Earning an income changes women’s lives for the better.
In these two chapters, Kristof and WuDunn examine gender-based violence, particularly in the forms of rape, honor rape, and honor killings. Among the unsettling points in this section is that “violence against women is […] constantly mutating into new forms” (62). Thus, the problem for women is not individual rapists or gangsters but an entire culture of misogyny and sexism.
In Chapter 4, Woinshet’s community didn’t side with her as the survivor of rape. Instead, they sided with Aberew, her rapist, since he followed traditional Ethiopian cultural practices. The community members were more upset at Woinshet for breaking these norms by reporting her rape and going to court to prosecute Aberew. Chapter 5 describes how a young Kurdish girl named Du’a Aswad was killed because she supposedly dishonored her family by hanging out with a boy at night (the family didn’t know whether the two had sex). Despite honor killings being illegal in Iraqi Kurdistan, the security officers present at the scene, didn’t intervene on her behalf. More than 1,000 men participated in Du’a’s murder. These two examples highlight how attitudes toward women as less than human are embedded within cultures.
The authors note that while “men are often more brutal to women” (67), women often commit gender-based violence against other women. Women typically manage brothels and routinely beat women and girls into compliance. In addition, reports and testimonials reveal that women fighters helped lure women to rape sites in countries including Sierra Leone, Iraq, Haiti, and Rwanda—and then held the woman down as male fighters raped them. These examples all show how women, like men, “absorb and transmit misogynistic values” (69).
Throughout the book, Kristof and WuDunn note that fighting back against oppression is incredibly dangerous for women. A particularly poignant example is Mukhtar Mai’s story. She routinely called on the Pakistani government to invest more in women’s rights. President Musharraf, although initially sympathetic to Mukhtar’s rape, became embarrassed by her public comments. He had the intelligence services follow her, release the men convicted of her rape, blacklist her from leaving the country, and try to accompany her to the US to regulate her public comments. One official even said: “You have betrayed your country and helped our enemies…You have shamed Pakistan before the world” (73). At one point, President Musharaff planned to kill Mukhtar and make it look like a mugging. Despite the dangers, Mukhtar refused to stop fighting for women. The Musharaff government eventually collapsed, and the Pakistani intelligence agencies left her alone.
In addition, the authors begin to focus on how people living in the Global North, especially Americans, can get involved in fighting for gender equality. The authors’ first recommendation is for Americans “to get out and see the world” (88) because they believe that to effectively solve an issue, people must truly understand it, and this can be done only by viewing the issue firsthand. They suggest that the US university system fails its students by not enabling them to understand domestic and international poverty. The authors cite Harper McConnell as a strong example of an American who is helping to tackle gender inequality by living in and directly helping the impacted community. They also recommend that people donate to grassroots organizations if they’re unable to visit these communities themselves. In the Appendix, they provide a list of such organizations.
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