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In Safe Haven, It is often difficult for a reader to discern what is real and what is a part of a character’s delusions. The reader is presented with two versions of the story of Katie and Kevin’s marriage. Katie tells her story first to Jo and then to Alex, describing a marriage that was full of fear, control, and manipulation. Kevin prohibited her from getting a driver’s license, forced her to make elaborate meals on a shoestring budget, and refused to take her to the hospital when she broke her fingers for fear someone would see the bruises on her face. For Katie, it was a horrible marriage that was completely one sided.
Kevin, however, saw himself as a man who paid attention to his wife and bought her things he knew she wanted just by the way she looked at them or from little things she said. He thought apologizing was enough to make up for the beatings, and he believed Katie should have understood that he was under a lot of pressure at work. Kevin made excuses for his actions and felt that should have been enough.
The more the reader gets to know Kevin, the clearer it becomes that he sees the world through an extremely distorted lens. He is a man lacking in self-confidence. He controls Katie’s whereabouts and friendships because he is afraid she will cheat on him. He believes his coworkers talk about him behind his back because they are always whispering and looking at him. In Kevin’s worldview, he is a good man, but everyone is working against him and laughing at him behind his back. It’s a delusion that is never really proven except in Kevin’s alcohol-soaked mind. The delusions grow as Kevin drinks more and more, finally coming to a head on the fatal night he finally confronts Katie at her cottage. His delusions are so strong that he believes he is going to kill Erin for her own good, even as he feels the muzzle of the gun pressed against his stomach. Kevin has lost all touch with reality, and it leads to his death.
As Kevin lives on the edge of delusion, Katie also struggles to recognize reality. Katie and her new friend Jo talk on multiple occasions and share wine together. Jo is the first person Katie opens up to about her past and the only person she ever talks to about her feelings for Alex. Jo also helps Katie decide whether she is ready to make a commitment to staying in Southport and to Alex. However, after her confrontation with Kevin, Katie sees something that everyone else already knows: there is no one living in the cottage next door. This fact has been hinted at throughout the book—once when Alex doesn’t see Jo on the porch when Katie points her out; another time when Katie and Jo go to a bar and Jo doesn’t touch her wine; and finally when Kevin arrives in Southport and regards the cottage next door as derelict. However, Katie only sees it that way once she no longer needs Jo. When everything is over and Katie reads Carly’s letter, she realizes Jo is Carly pushing her into Alex’s arms. It is possible that Katie suffered a delusion much like Kevin’s, but the truth is a more complicated. Perhaps both their delusions were at least partially rooted in reality.
Second chances are a common trope in romance novels. In this novel, all of the main characters have a second chance at happiness. This begins with Alex, a widower still grieving his wife of five years. Before her death, Carly gave Alex permission to find another woman to marry and raise their children with. Although Alex is not keen on living his life alone, he is also reluctant to marry just anyone. He wants someone who can be a good companion and a good mother to his two children. When Alex meets Katie, he feels that she might be the perfect woman for him because of her interactions with his youngest child, Kristen. As the novel progresses, Alex falls in love with Katie, moving forward wholeheartedly because of the permission Carly granted him. Only Katie’s dark past stands as an obstacle to their happiness.
Katie also embraces the trope of second chances. She escaped an abusive marriage and came to Southport to start over and live her life without fear. Katie does not intend to fall in love when she comes to Southport; she believes love is fleeting. However, when she meets Alex, there is an instant attraction. Katie slowly opens up with Alex and falls in love, but her past holds her back as she contemplates the future. Despite everything, she finds it difficult to break her marriage vows by being with Alex. However, when Jo pushes her to decide if she can commit, Katie takes a big step toward her future, reassuring her that her place is with Alex.
Kevin is the final character who is offered a second chance. When Erin leaves him, Kevin has the opportunity to examine his life. He can stop drinking, focus on his career, and move on with another woman. He even meets a woman at a bar and sleeps with her but is so overcome with guilt that it throws him into a frenzy over how much he misses Erin. When Kevin learns where Erin has gone and chases after her, he has a chance to make amends, apologize, and attempt to work things out. Instead, he takes each one of his second chances and throws them away. In the end, Kevin falls into despair and delusion, convincing himself that nothing that happened to him is his fault, and that it all lies on Erin. Rather than take a second chance, Kevin decides to take revenge, leading to his death.
Katie has never known kind love. Her parents were angry alcoholics who were occasionally violent. Katie claims her father never intentionally beat her or her mother, but he did throw a snow globe that hit her on the head. She recalls good times as a child, but these are overshadowed by darker moments. When Katie turned 18, her parents kicked her out without financial or moral support. Her parents were killed a year later in a car accident, but for Katie they were already gone, having long since abandoned her.
Katie meets Kevin through an act of selflessness. He saves her from two would-be attackers, making her feel as though she had just met someone who could make her feel safe. Unfortunately, Kevin stopped making her feel safe when on their honeymoon he hit her for the first time. This was Katie’s second experience with love, and it was even darker than the first.
When Katie arrives in Southport, she has no expectations. She only wants to find a job and make enough money to feel safe. Then she meets Jo. Jo pushes her toward Alex, and Katie allows it because she is desperate to connect to other people. Katie falls for Kristen and Josh first, finding in these innocent children a simplicity that was missing from her life. She is a bit more wary of Alex, but over time he shows her that she can trust him; she comes to believe he won’t suddenly turn on her and become abusive. Katie grows in her relationship with Alex because his love allows her to blossom in a way neither her parents nor Kevin would allow.
Carly/Jo is another example of love overcoming adversity. Carly thinks only of Alex as she lays dying, afraid of what will happen to him and the kids if he doesn’t open himself up to a new love. This shows uncommon selflessness and strength. Carly transcends death to befriend Katie and encourage her to commit herself fully to Alex and the kids. Carly’s love for her family allows her to do something powerful and life-changing for them, making her the most important manifestation of this theme.
Having escaped an abusive marriage, Katie views safety and trust as issues of paramount importance. She has never known a relationship that wasn’t volatile. She doesn’t feel safe with strangers nor in her own home. However, that changes over time as she moves further away from her abusive relationship, both in physical distance and in time. As she gets to know Alex, her sense of safety increases, but she still struggles to trust him. This lack of trust is seen throughout the novel, beginning with her frustration at the gifts he gives to her and continuing with her reluctance to commit to his veiled marriage proposals. The ultimate display of her lack of trust, however, is when she tries to goad him into hitting her. She doubts he would ever do such a thing, yet she still picks a fight with him and asks him to hit her. This stems from her previous experiences and shows that she still doesn’t believes there are men who won’t lash out violently given the right circumstances.
Safety and trust are also issues for Alex, who struggles to find ways to keep his children safe. After Josh falls into the river at the beginning of the novel, Alex blames himself. He finds ways to keep Josh safe but knows that he can do more. When he meets Katie, he recognizes his daughter’s affection for her; nevertheless, he worries that Katie will never be able to love her the way Carly did. He takes a leap of faith by trusting Katie with his children. Alex achieves this level of trust a lot more quickly than Katie does. However, Alex views the world through a softer lens because he has not suffered the abuse and neglect that Katie has.
Finally, Kevin remembers a time when Erin told him that he made her feel safe. He clings to this memory because it reflects good times in his marriage, but it also tells him that he was not always a bad guy. Kevin is delusional in that he cannot see that Erin stopped feeling safe with him the moment he began beating her. He cannot understand his beatings were a complete and utter betrayal. While he clings to the idea that she felt safe with him, he refuses to acknowledge that he made her feel the opposite. In turn, Erin had the same effect on Kevin. When he came home to Erin, he felt safe from the darkness he saw in his work. He trusted her always to be there even though his actions prove that he never trusted her to stay true to him. The same things he wanted and expected from Erin, he could not give to her.
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